Tolerance, shmolerance

The concept of tolerance, often hailed as a virtue, is increasingly being scrutinized for its underlying implications. While tolerance is commonly understood as the act of enduring something or someone one dislikes, it often carries an implicit sense of superiority. This perspective, deeply embedded in societal norms, raises questions about its true value and impact on marginalized groups. The author of this commentary argues that tolerance, as it stands, perpetuates a hierarchical mindset, where the tolerator assumes a position of dominance over the tolerated. This dynamic undermines the dignity of those on the receiving end, reducing their existence to something merely ‘endured’ rather than respected or embraced. The commentary draws on academic research, including a study by Verkuyten, Yogeeswaran, and Adelman, which highlights the negative psychological and social consequences of being tolerated. These include threats to self-esteem, belonging, and identity, as well as perceived injustices and social withdrawal. The author also references a Belgian report on LGBTQ+ rights, emphasizing that marginalized communities seek respect, not mere tolerance. The piece concludes with a call to move beyond tolerance, advocating for acceptance, cherishing, and embracing diversity. It urges readers to reflect on their own attitudes and strive for a more inclusive and empathetic society. The commentary also advises consulting mental health professionals for deeper insights into the complexities of these issues.