The revelation that a child one has raised and loved is not biologically their own can deliver a profound psychological blow, particularly for men. This discovery not only impacts the individual but also reverberates through the extended family and the child themselves. Counseling psychologist Sule Joseph, in an interview with Newsday, emphasized the extensive and enduring emotional fallout from such situations. This discussion followed a claim by the Fathers’ Association of Trinidad and Tobago that one in three men who underwent paternity tests between 2020 and 2025 at a judiciary-approved facility were not the biological fathers. However, Joseph cautioned that this statistic reflects a specific subset of individuals who already harbored suspicions and thus may not be representative of the broader population. He noted that while there is a subculture in Trinidad and Tobago that often rationalizes infidelity, the discovery of non-paternity through a test remains a harsh and traumatic experience, regardless of prior relationship status. The association has consequently renewed its call for mandatory DNA testing before courts issue maintenance orders. Joseph highlighted that while some men might feel relief upon confirming their suspicions, those who have formed deep emotional bonds with the child could face devastating psychological consequences, including feelings of confusion, betrayal, self-doubt, and anger. The emotional damage is often exacerbated by societal expectations and the perceived attack on male ego. Children, too, are significantly affected, potentially experiencing confusion, fear, anger, and insecurity, which can disrupt their sense of identity and belonging. Joseph advised that such information should be shared with the child at an emotionally stable time and in a supportive environment to minimize psychological harm. The ripple effects extend to the wider family, with relatives also grappling with feelings of confusion and betrayal. In the legal realm, paternity disputes can arise in court for various reasons. A Family Court lawyer explained that if a father’s name is not on the birth certificate, the mother must first apply for a paternity order. If the man denies paternity, the court will refer them for a DNA test. Even if the father’s name is on the birth certificate, the court may order a DNA test if the man expresses doubt. The lawyer emphasized the complexity of removing a name from a birth certificate, as it involves considering the child’s well-being. She supported the call for mandatory DNA testing in disputed cases, arguing that it could prevent long-term emotional and financial burdens. Ultimately, the court aims to balance the rights and responsibilities of all parties involved, ensuring that the child’s best interests remain paramount.
Psychologist: Emotional pain if paternity test comes back negative
