Jamaica is experiencing a concerning societal shift as marriage rates plummet while divorces surge, prompting leading relationship expert Bishop Dr. Carla Dunbar to issue a stark warning about modern attitudes toward marital commitment. Recent data from the Statistical Institute of Jamaica reveals marriages have declined dramatically from over 15,000 in 2022 to just 12,470 in 2024, while divorce filings have risen consistently from 3,310 to 3,729 during the same period.
Dr. Dunbar, an accomplished counseling psychologist and licensed sex therapist, identifies a disturbing trend where couples approach separation with a ‘hire purchase’ mentality—abandoning relationships when immediate results aren’t achieved. She attributes this crisis to inadequate preparation for marriage, noting that many couples prioritize wedding ceremonies over the lifelong commitment they signify.
‘The accessibility of divorce has created a dangerous convenience,’ Dr. Dunbar explained to the Jamaica Observer. ‘Previously, people invested more effort into resolving marital issues because separation was more difficult. Now, divorce has become as easily obtainable as fast food—you simply drive through and collect your papers.’
The expert criticized modern society’s demand for instant gratification, emphasizing that marriage requires patient cultivation like any living organism. ‘A child isn’t born an adult immediately, nor do you obtain a university degree instantly. Marriage demands time, tenderness, and committed effort from both parties to thrive,’ she argued.
Dr. Dunbar specifically called upon church ministers and marriage officers to strengthen premarital counseling programs, noting that even pastors often insufficiently study biblical teachings on marriage. She warned against rushing couples to the altar without ensuring their emotional readiness for partnership realities, conflict resolution, and long-term sacrifice.
Highlighting the spiritual dimension, Dr. Dunbar referenced Hebrews 13:4, stating that honoring marriage requires corresponding actions. She advocates for comprehensive counseling both before and after marriage ceremonies, rejecting abbreviated two-day sessions as insufficient for preparing couples for marital rigors.
The relationship expert remains open to training marriage officers and pastors, emphasizing that successful marriages require maintenance through spiritual guidance and practical commitment rather than temporary emotions or romantic fantasies.